What if you can build a Rome?

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There is a proverb saying ”Rome wasn’t build in one day”.
And sometimes, today, Rome is called ”the eternal city”.
Which might be interpreted like… it might take time to built something, and if you have a good foundation, it might stand forever.

What if it’s somewhat the same when it comes to being a love warrior?

That it takes stamina. It takes several, maybe endless tries. It takes failures. It takes insights. It takes epiphanies. It takes effort and ease. It takes time.

And at the same time, it’s all there. I mean the love warrior is there, but invisible. The stamina might be about the exploration, the curiosity, the playfulness. Never giving up - but giving oneself time to ponder, to rest, to listen to others, to relax, to surrender.

Even if I don’t have so many plans, there is a direction in my life, and that direction gives me stamina. Sometimes it’s like that soap, that slides out of my hands. I mean, I have the direction, I have the expression (the love warrior) and then the journey ahead is a bit unclear. I walk in the ”right” direction, and I keep on walking, trying different clothing, different shoes, and try to be aware of how I react to different weather types, or times a day. (I hope these metaphors work).

And even if it’s still somewhat invisible to me, something in me already knows that the foundation is already there. Now it’s time to decide what the building will look like, and explore different rooms, and also see where people would like to enter.

So if there is something you feel is your thing in life, your mission, or what ever you want to call THAT, be kind to yourself, by having stamina.

Try once more, maybe in another way.

*If it’s difficult, when you are in doubt, take contact with yourself. *
*Go into a state of meditation, and ask questions, and listen to the answers from within. *
Accept the answers you get. They might come as words, as pictures, as images, as colors, as feelings, as silence… or in a way that you yourself recognizes.

I can help my stamina by setting small goals along the roadside. I decide to write something, prepare something, set a date for a workshop… Almost anything that shows me that I am on to it. Baby-steps or not.

When I reflect on where I am at in this moment, I can actually see a pattern, a meaning in what has happened to me and what I have created. And I guess that I already have created a little village. And something in me wants me to build something bigger, that could help/serve more people than I do today. And in meditations I have seen myself enter a city of gold. What if I could live there?

I am writing this piece from the word stamina, and just letting it flow. And I get surprises while writing… And I could stop and reflect on: ”What is wanting to be said here, except an invitation to have stamina?”

I wrote this a day ago. And now, when re-reading it, before posting it, I make a reflection. What if stamina is as simple as: I keep on trying, I keep on dancing, I keep on listening, I keep on playing?

When do you need stamina?
What is stamina for you?

Charlotte Cronquist
Charlotte Cronquist är relationsexpert och lustcoach som erbjuder o nline-kursercoaching och böcker. Hon driver intervjupodcasten  100%-podden och bloggar om kärlek, relationer och sexualitet. 
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